Diana Richardson - Tantric Sex for Men
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Dedicated to Mother Earth
Tantric Inspiration
Even after a lifetime of sexual experience we never reach anywhere near that supreme stage, near that divinity.
Why? A man reaches a ripe old age, comes to the end of his life, but he is never free from his lust for sex, from his
passion for intercourse. Why? It is because he has never understood nor been told about the art of sex, about the
science of sex. He has never considered it; he has never discussed it with the enlightened ones.
OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,
FROM SEX TO SUPERCONSCIOUSNESS
CONTENTS
Cover Image
Title Page
Dedication
Preface by Michael Richardson
Introduction
1 Male Burden of Performance
RELAXING INSTEAD OF PERFORMING
HUMANS NEED MORE SEX
EXPLORATION AND VULNERABILITY
SEXUAL CONDITIONING AND HOW IT SHAPES US
2 Involuntary Ejaculation and Desensitization
EXCITEMENT CAUSES PREMATURE EJACULATION
SENSATION REDUCES SENSITIVITY
WOMEN’S SEXUAL RELUCTANCE
3 Ejaculation Is Not Male Orgasm
LOSS OF ENERGY AFTER EJACULATION
CONTAINING THE LIFE FORCE
BENEFITS OF COOLING DOWN
4 The Equal and Opposite Force of the Female Environment
MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME
SHIFT FROM SENSATION TO SENSITIVITY
5 The Penis—A Potent Electromagnetic Instrument
SEXUAL CONDITIONING INFLUENCES SEXUAL BEHAVIOR
DEVELOPING SENSITIVITY THROUGH BEING CONSCIOUS
A HIGHLY SENSITIVE MAGNET
6 Awareness, Movement, Penetration, and Erection
AWARENESS
MOVEMENT
THE ART OF CONSCIOUS PENETRATION
SPONTANEOUS ERECTION AND IMPOTENCE
7 Dates, Foreplay, Kissing, and Positions
MAKE LOVE DATES
FOREPLAY
TANTRIC KISSING
POSITIONS DURING SEX
8 Sexual Healing and Male Authority
VAGINA, NOT CLITORIS
THE PENIS AS HEALING CATALYST
STAYING PRESENT
DEEP, SUSTAINED PENETRATION
ALLOW OLD FEELINGS TO SURFACE
POSITIONS SUITABLE FOR DEEP, SUSTAINED PENETRATION
PARTNERING WITH WOMEN
9 Mastering Love and Overcoming Emotions
DISTINGUISHING BETWEEN EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS
OVERCOMING FEARS CREATED BY LACK OF LOVE
GOLDEN RULES FOR GETTING RID OF EMOTION
THE ROLE OF EMOTIONS IN SEX
EXPRESSING FEELINGS IN THE PRESENT
HUMANS NEED LOVEMAKING FOR CONTINUED WELL-BEING
MALE AUTHORITY THROUGH TAKING RESPONSIBLE ACTION
10 Personal Experiences
APPENDIX Exercises for Improving Your Awareness and Sensitivity
Recommended Books and Resources
About the Authors
About Inner Traditions • Bear & Company
Copyright & Permissions
Tantric Inspiration
When sex is just an unconscious, mechanical urge in you, it is wrong. Remember, sex is not wrong: just the
mechanicalness of it is wrong. If you can bring some light of intelligence into your sexuality, that light will transform
it. It will not be sexuality anymore—it will be something totally different, so different that you do not have a word for
it.
In the East we have a word for it—Tantra. In the West you don’t have a word for it. When sex becomes joined
together, is yoked with intelligence, a totally new energy is created—that energy is called Tantra.
OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,
PHILOSOPHIA PERENNIS
PREFACE
By Michael Richardson
Sex is not what it seems to be. We all have inherited preconceptions and ideas about sex, which are
mostly false and form a screen, or barrier, that separates us from the real power of sex. When we
look beyond the inherited screen of misunderstanding we discover that sex is completely different
from what we generally think it is. Through sexual exploration I personally have discovered the true
function of sex, which is to bring more love into the world. Each and every person can be a
messenger of love by creating more love and contributing it to the world.
The screen of conditioning—our past experiences and ideas—limits our human sexual expression.
After all, what does a man want when he makes love to a woman? What is the ultimate reason for
making love? It is not to achieve ejaculation; it is to be loved by the woman.
Woman is the source of love, the mother of love, and I, as a man, am able to tap into that love. For
me, love is what it is all about. Being in the here and now, I’ve discovered that in stillness, including
inner stillness during movement, I can tap into or connect with the “garden of love” in woman. And
there is nothing more satisfying and touching than seeing a woman radiating, blossoming in love.
I do have hope for humanity. The only hope is for man to find a way through his screen of
conditioned sexuality, so that he may come to rest within his male authority. So that he can make
peace with woman and make love to her body, heart, and soul.
INTRODUCTION
There are a great many books about sex offering a range of techniques best described as the “effort”
or “doing” approach. Little is mentioned about the “relaxed” or “non-doing” approach in sex, which
is why we decided to write a book from the man’s perspective. The non-doing approach is not a
technique, but the opportunity to change yourself through changing the ways you express yourself
sexually. The orientation is one of sexual union as a meditation in which the intelligence is handed
back to the genitals.
Tantric Sex for Men also complements the previously published Tantric Orgasm for Women,
which many men say is actually a book for men. Nonetheless, to explore sex specifically from the
male perspective is of immense value. Readers are also referred to The Heart of Tantric Sex: A
Unique Guide to Love and Sexual Fulfillment, which offers the “Love Keys” and many specific
details about lovemaking that do not necessarily appear in this book. Here our intention is to offer a
completely new picture of sex, one that brings about a revolutionary and evolutionary shift in the way
w e think about sex, and therefore express ourselves in sex. Through a change of mindset we can
intentionally allow the body to relax into its inner wisdom and express itself as nature intended.
Our body of knowledge is based on personal experience and has been confirmed by thousands of
couples who have passed through our weeklong residential “Making Love” retreats over the past
twenty years. During the retreats there is no nudity, no partner swapping, and each couple arrives
committed to each other for the week. The atmosphere is respectful, supportive, and professional. We
sometimes share with couples how fortunate we feel to have the best work in the world. Actually, it
is pure pleasure and not work at all. We experience unlimited joy in seeing couples rise in love out of
stagnation right in front of our eyes, in a handful of days. This is not only one couple, but twenty-five
or more couples simultaneously. Everything proceeds easily, gently, naturally, and with virtually no
effort on our part.
Although sex has been practiced in certain ways for thousands of years, we don’t believe it has to
continue in the same way forever. Over the years we have come to recognize that changing the way
we make love changes and empowers our lives in loving, magical, mystical ways. However, this kind
of transformation happens only through direct experience, and not by simply thinking that it sounds
like a great idea. To gain access to insider knowledge, the experience has to be lived fully by the
individual on a cellular level. Transforming our basic sex energy into its higher vibration of love, as
described in the chapters ahead, raises the quality of love on personal, social, and cosmic levels of
consciousness.
During our time working in the field of sexuality some couples who have attended our retreats have
naturally separated and gone different ways. Our approach is not foolproof; rather, it depends on
individual awareness, curiosity, and an interest in change. To our great astonishment, over the years
we have witnessed a steady trickle of men returning to our retreats with a new lover. Actions are said
to speak louder than words, and the return of so many men is their living endorsement of the immense
value of changing the way one makes love. Once a man has been fortunate enough to have a taste of
his male potency flowing into and through a woman, and being received by her, he naturally hopes to
create similar experiences for himself in the future.
Sometimes women are more ready than men to change their sexual ways. If your woman is ready to
embark on an adventure into the unknown, follow her lead and let her take you to new horizons. Give
it a whirl; there is really nothing to lose. Quite possibly you will gain more love and insight than you
can imagine.
Humans have progressed in countless amazing ways, yet sex, the dimension closest to home,
remains unexplored territory. Perhaps now is the time to move beyond the familiar and take a step in
human sexual evolution.
To those men and women who have already taken this step and have written to us about their
profound personal experiences, we extend our deep gratitude to you for allowing us to use your
words in encouraging others to explore their sexual potential.
Our spiritual master, Osho, formerly known as Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, is the source of the tantric
inspiration we now pass on to you. Osho’s interpretation of the ancient Tantra scriptures addresses
the search for harmony, wholeness, and love that is at the core of all religious and spiritual traditions,
and that is also an integral aspect of the tantric relationship between two people. It is our privilege to
include some excerpts of Osho’s tantric inspiration throughout this book. His words, appearing in text
form, were initially delivered as spontaneous oral discourses and later published in book form. The
quotes included here are those that inspired us on our journey, and in no way represent the full range
and extraordinary diversity of Osho’s spiritual insight into the human condition.
We are both vitally aware that our lives have been shaped by Osho in ways that could not have
been imagined at the outset, and for this honor we extend to him our eternal love and gratitude.
Osho Speaks on Sex
Osho’s Spiritual Insight into the Human Condition
I have almost four hundred books in my name. Out of four hundred books there is only one book on sex, and that too
is not really on sex; it is basically on how to transcend sex, how to bring the energy of sex to a sublimated state,
because it is our basic energy. It can produce life. . . . It is only man who has the privilege to change the character
and the quality of sexual energy. The name of the book is From Sex to Superconsciousness —but nobody talks
about superconsciousness. The book is about superconsciousness; sex is only to be the beginning, where everybody
is.
There are methods that can start the energy moving upwards, and in the East, for at least ten thousand years,
there has developed a special science, Tantra. There is no parallel in the West of such a science. For ten thousand
years people have experimented with how sexual energy can become your spirituality, how your sexuality can
become your spirituality. It is proved beyond doubt—thousands of people have gone through the transformation.
Tantra seems to be the science that is, sooner or later, going to be accepted in the whole world, because people are
suffering from all kinds of perversions. That’s why they go on talking about sex as if that is my work, as if twenty-
four hours a day I am talking about sex. Their repressed sexuality is the problem. My whole effort has been how to
make your sex a natural, accepted phenomenon, so there is no repression—and then you don’t need any
pornography; so that there is no repression—and then you don’t dream of sex. Then the energy can be transformed.
There are valid methods available through which the same energy that brings life to the world can bring a new
life to you. That was the whole theme of the book. But nobody bothered about the theme, nobody bothered about
why I have spoken on it. Just the word sex was in the title, and that was enough.
The book is not for sex; it is the only book in the whole existence against sex, but strange. . . . The book says that
there is a way to go beyond sex, you can transcend sex—that’s the meaning of “from sex to superconsciousness.”
You are at the stage of sex while you should be at the stage of superconsciousness. And the route is simple: sex just
has to be part of your religious life, it has to be something sacred. Sex has to be something not obscene, not
pornographic, not condemned, not repressed but immensely respected, because we are born out of it. It is our very
life source. And to condemn the life source is to condemn everything. Sex has to be raised higher and higher to its
ultimate peak. And that ultimate peak is samadhi, superconsciousness.
OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,
SEX MATTERS: FROM SEX TO SUPERCONSCIOUSNESS
Tantric Inspiration
And about sex also people are very, very worried. That very worry and that very effort to do something is the
problem. Sex happens; it is not a thing that you have to do. So you have to learn the eastern attitude toward sex, the
Tantra attitude. The Tantra attitude is that you be loving to a person. There is no need to plan, there is no need to
