Шими Канг - Путь дельфина. Как вырастить счастливых и успешных детей, не превращаясь в мать-«тигрицу»
Теперь, когда мы знаем то, что мы знаем, нам уже не нужны метафоры, тигры и дельфины, потому что именно мы, люди обладаем идеальной способностью к тому, чтобы быть великолепными родителями, возможно, самыми лучшими из всех живых существ, благодаря удивительному и сложному строению нашего организма. Мы мотивированы самой природой. Более того, люди рождены для того, чтобы быть здоровыми, счастливыми и адаптивными. Дети многому учатся от своих родителей, но и нам, родителям, есть чему поучиться у своих детей. Дети – доказательство того, что любовь, жизнелюбие и любознательность являются естественными для любого человека. Еще они являются доказательством того, что нам всем необходим сон, движение тела, игры на свежем воздухе, исследование окружающих миров, общение с другими людьми и помощь друг другу. Наши дети напоминают нам о радости бытия. Чтобы быть хорошим родителем, нам надо лишь объединить нашу интуицию и наши знания. Взяв природу себе в союзники, мы сможем с нежностью и любовью провести наших детей по дороге к здоровью, счастью и настоящему успеху во всех сферах жизни. И я не думаю, что кто-нибудь из живых существ может справиться с этим лучше, чем человек.
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